Sue Johnson’s Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) posits that love is fundamentally an attachment bond. High-quality relationships feature “accessible, responsive, and engaged” partners. This is operationalized in micro-moments: when one partner makes a “bid” for connection (a glance, a touch, a question), the other “turns toward” it. In distressed relationships, partners “turn away” or “turn against” bids. The accumulation of turned-toward bids creates a secure base.
A high-quality relationship isn't defined by the absence of conflict, but by the presence of . It is a partnership where both individuals feel seen, heard, and supported in their personal growth. 1. The Pillar of Mutual Respect